I don't think the "sexy" comment is bad in a stable relationship, but only if it is done when the occasion calls for it. Also if your W suffers from low self-esteem, it probably would make her more uncomfortable.
In my case, I didn't call my W "sexy" but "attractive" or "you look great" after the bomb. She seemed uncomfortable about that because she probably thought of that as pursuing or whatever. So the compliments I've been giving are more on her abilities as a mom and nurse.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
