Exhausted, I think that its important for you to remember when you are thinking about your Family, this is YOUR M, not theirs. This is your family, and while mom, dad and sis have a tremendous influence on your life, you cant hold them accountable for your ultimate happiness. You cant be humiliated unless you feel humiliated. He is the one who made the mistakes, and you can hold your head high knowing that you have been the faithful wife and good mother.

While this woman cant ever be totally out of your life now, your H can still be your H, if you will have him. I hope that she can be strong, what a situation she has gotten herself into! Have they agreed on custody?

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...