Yes, just saying somethingd doesnt do any good. That is why you need to learn to (A) set goals (B) create an action plan to execute those goals and (C) put strict time limits on when your goals will be completed by.
IMO that really is the first step to getting on a much different path. And, in the process you will learn so much about yourself and while learning you will realize how you can improve as a man.
When I began the process of goal setting/action plans I realized that I thrive under pressure and waiting until the last minute to complete what needs to be completed. I used to think that was a good thing (that I could work well under pressure) but I realized that all it did was cause me a good bit of unecessary stress. As an individual I have now learned to manage my time better and break apart tasks so there is no "last minute drama filled rush" to get things done. Its given me lots of personal freedom and really lifted some burden from me.
I always used to have tons of ideas in my head and yes, I would write them down but never do a thing about them. By making goals and action plans I have changed that. And that is a positive change for me.
Goals and ideas are great but without an action plan and timeline to execute them they dont mean jack.
You keep saying you need to detach from your W and remove her from your mind yet the first thing you post is about your upcoming anniversary. Again, chatter and obsession about your W. And truthfully, August is 2 months away and by then you could have another set of D papers in the works. But you have already created expectations in your own mind that in Aug. things will remain status quo.
You set yourself up to be destroyed because every element of your life is based on your W and NOT on you. So yes, you are correct, making goals is a waste of time if you have on intentions of doing them or at least trying to do them.
