Don't Let Them Eat Cake

[In Limbo]

I'm ok today. I started a DivorceCare class last night and I think that will be great support for healing as well.

Grace,

Thanks for checking on me.

I feel more detached from H than in the past, so that's good. More than anything else, the detachment is what I've been struggling with. H got mad at me over something regarding OW yesterday (her H is not happy about their R and suspicious and H thinks I'm to blame) and I was able to remain calm and did not feel responsibility for his problems. If he's not doing anything wrong as he keeps saying, why is he so worried her H will find out? Anyway, he's made his bed and now he has to lie in it. NOT my problem. I take responsibility for what I've done wrong, my part in the collapse of our marriage. But I will not take responsibility for any of his or OW's problems. In the past, I would have gotten very emotional, apologetic (for things I should not have apologized for), etc. But I just stayed calm. Sort of a 180 for me. Didn't even let it get to me when he declared he was "not happy with you." I don't need him to be "happy with me."

I've also scheduled a trip to the beach with the boys without him. He knows I wanted to do it, but I'm guessing he thinks I won't go through with it. But I am. Booked it this morning. And we'll have fun, no moping around that week for sure!

Now the key is to CONTINUE detaching.

How has your day been so far?