I understand PM's perspective. But here is why my situation, it doesn't quit fit. I badgered him. I annoyed him. I nagged him. I bitched. I went for the kill. And then he started to stay away more and more. I repeated the process again, but with more umph! I was going to win. I was going to nag him back into our marriage to work on it. Well, it didn't work. He sought new relationships that made him feel better. And the truth of the matter was, yes he contributed to why we are where we are and so did I. 50/50 split. So it's not so much our spouses need to have their egos stroked as a way of life.....but for me and my spouse he needed at the time he left the marriage. I would agree if you are with someone who will need that for the rest of their lives, that could be tough. A very hard order to fill. But for me, I will admit the emotional beating I put out there for him....he needed to go somewhere to recover. I'm sorry I did this, I'm sorry he had to seek solice somewhere else. In hindsight....I truly regret it. But for me, with my spouse, it's not that he needs his ego boosted, he needs to be made to feel like a hero everyday of his life.....but he definitely could NOT live in a marriage where he was being bashed from just about every direction. And only he and I know that. And when he was done getting his emotional butt kicking from me, his wife who promised to cherish him, he went some where to lick it wounds and recover. I hate my involvement in this, but I'm getting more accomplished now that I've admitted my part in this.
