WCW - good analogy about the duck.:) I am finding it easier and easier to detach, and to not be focused on where he is, what he is doing, trying to analyze his actions, etc.
Yesterday was another day (when he was around which wasn't a whole lot - HOWEVER was home for dinner for the third night in a row - record we haven't seen for months!!!) where he was moody and non-commmunicative, even with the kids. I ignored him for the most part, just pleasant when I did speak to him.
Other days recently he has seemed like "himself" again, more relaxed around me, actually doing stuff around the house, stepping in to deal with the kids (again, not something I have seen for awhile) and in some ways those days are harder because I have to keep reminding myself he thinks he doesn't love me anymore.
Then the alien takes over again . . .
I can say this week for the most part I have felt truly content and even happy - what a difference that makes! I am faking it til I am making it!
