You probably shouldn't try to assign motives to why your W doesn't make eye contact easily. Notice you went right to the most negative reasons - shame or disgust. What if it's that you're just too damned goodlooking that she can't look for too long????
I have a theory about eye contact. I think it is a learned behavior. I'm an educator - taught middle school English and now I'm an AP, in charge of discipline. I notice that there are some kids that can and do make eye contact effortlessly with me. Mostly, the little ones - early elementary - have no problem with it. And when I watch them with each other, their eyes are glued to each other. Now, talk with a middle schooler and that is another story. Many times I have to direct them ("let's look at each other while we're talking about this.") Somewhere between 5th grade and 6th grade, approximately, we lose some of our ease, we learn to look away.
Keep looking your W in the eye - even when she won't return the look. If she's not looking at you, look at her eyelashes (a lovely part of any woman!), the arch of her brow...just keep your eyes there. She'll look up and notice every time that you are drinking her in. And if you need remedial work on this, visit your local elementary school and watch a few second graders doing it. Man, they've got it down!
Here's lookin' atcha! Cheers ~~~
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