Just a quick addition in response to a question I got.
Just because the Romance part is dead, I don't think it is a hopeless cause. I believe that the path back to reconciliation lies in 1) fixing your self, 2) improving the "Partnership" part and the (and only then) 3) slowly building a NEW "Romance".
Think of it as now having a friend. You want to make that friendship better. If you stay friends, then maybe you might become lovers in the future.
The purpose of stopping pursuit is to buy you time. If you pursue and push and try to work on a dead "Romance", then you push the person away and never get the chance to fix the Partnership or build a new Romance.
So don't be disheartened.
Just relax and be patient. This is a marathon, not a sprint.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
