Help! Want direct feedback from walk away wive/s

[BigJohn]

What's with women leaving their husbands for men they knew in their teenage years? This is an epidemic! Stupid freakin' Internet!

I was totally in love with a girl in high school too, but she holds no secret power over me now. I certainly wouldn't break up my family for her! The whole real substance of my life has been after I knew her.

Men are doing this now -- in droves -- too. Facebook and MySpace have been instrumental in fanning these old flames again.

It's wistful romanticism and fantasy. I've felt that way too (still "carry a torch" for my first girlfriend), but the difference is, I NEVER ACTED ON IT.

Self-restraint. It's what separates men from the greater apes.

Puppy

Puppy,

I couldn't agree with you more. I too have had those feelings but am mature and responsible enough to keep them in check and not act on them. Unfortunately my wife has always been very idealistic in general, impressionable and to a certain degree emotionally vulnerable. Over the course of time I forgot about those qualities in her that make her vulnerable (partly because I do not share them) and now I'm paying a price for my lack of vigilance. Ironically, it was my strong self confidence and personality that attracted her to me in the first place, now it is many of these same qualities that she says have contributed to our problems.

I know, I should stop blaming myself. I am not the perfect husband, but that does not justify her involvement in the EA. Nothing I've done in the past does.