Put that on a sticky note and paste it to your forehead!
Serioulsy? Have you ever tried that? Sorta going underground for a bit. Obviously contact for the kids, but keeping it short and to the point. Look really good and act like you have big plans and are in a hurry, but be sorta secretive. Taking longer to respond to emails or calls unless its an emergency, letting it go to vm. I think right now she knows the sun still rises and sets with her in your mind. I know my exh is a lunatic, but me being distant and secretive drives him crazy. Try it and see what happens.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!