A new thread, a new outlook.....

[PositivelyMommy]

Kev, well done.

So if this is a power struggle, then we know what to do.

You don't want to approach this head on. If you do, you will just get your horns locked. No one wins and Weeman gets stuck in the middle.

No, what you need to do is 'manipulate'. Make her think she has the upper hand. You DO NOT start the conversation by persuasion.

What you do is first, validate her feelings about missing her son. (You and I know it's an excuse but she needs to hear it from you so she can let it go)

Then you need to express your feelings. I feel very ... when... I miss Weeman so much...

Then stop. SHUT UP! See what she comes back with.

See if she offers any kind of suggestions for you to see Weeman more.

What you are trying to do is to make her think that letting you see Weeman more is HER IDEA, not yours.

If it's your idea, she will fight you on it tooth and nail because it's a POWER STRUGGLE.

However, if it is HER idea, then it's a GOOD idea.


So no begging, no persuasion.

You have to be manipulative here, be smart, not bullish and argumentative.

Good luck!