First thing that popped into my head was power struggle. Kev, is your W used to getting her own way? Compramising & letting go of some control is very difficult for some people.
Good luck & stay strong!!!
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)