And basically what I mean by forget the affair is this: My H was having an EA with a co-worker. She was also in a bad relationship where there was lots of fighting, just as it was between me and H. So they latched onto each other, being each other's ego boost and "You make me feel so good about myself" buddies. And now, that has really died down as she now has a new boyfriend who gives her everything her little heart desires and my H is broke, more than a decade older than her and has a kid. But no matter, he's now got another weird phone relationship with a distant cousin who lives in another state that he's never laid eyeballs on. But they Facebook and they talk on the phone now.... So really, it's not the person....it's what the person does for our H's....which is boost their egos and gives them the euphoric feelings you have when you get to know someone. If not this dummy, it would be another one. So don't stress about her, she's nothing and could be easily replaced with a new dummy. Concentrate on you.
