I really hope what I am doing is best for my S's. I feel that it is, but it may turn out to be pyrrhic.
I have tried to contact S8's teacher, to schedule a one-on-one conference with her. I wanted to talk to her about S8 and how this growing battle bteen his parents might be affecting his behavior. Academically he is doing okay, often very well. But sometimes his behavior in class is not where it needs to be.
More importantly I wanted to ascertain whether my xW has been contacting her to try to win her support to her cause. I fear that xW has subtly communicated to teachers and staff over these last two years that any of S8's misconduct and poor performance is directly attributable to his father's behavior. I have witnessed first-hand xW's words and actions to do just this very thing with S8's first grade teacher. I am certain with all of the classroom functions that xW has volunteered for, she has continued to cultivate that notion with everyone she encounters.
S8's current teacher has not responded to any of my emails, not like she used to. And she has not responded to my latest one asking for a conference.
I guess my next step is to go to the school counselor. I am now trying to draft a letter to her to seek her guidance on how best to proceed. I have two goals. First to help lessen the impact all of this might have on S8. Second to determine if my Xw is trying to garner support from the teachers and staff for her legal action to remove custody from me, S8's father.
I don't really know what it is I should be doing. I am struggling to figure out what actions I can take to avert xW's hateful actions. Much as part of me wants to scream to the world about her crimes against me and our family, I also want to curb my tongue and to not malign this person who is still my S's mother. I love my S's more than I value my own personal outcome. While I seek to lessen the injury she continues to deliver to myself, I am more concerned that the impact to my S's, both short-term and long-term, be minimized.
