A new thread, a new outlook.....

[PositivelyMommy]

Kev,

You know my opinion in regards to co-parenting. I always like to see the dad get involved more. The fact that you WANT to spend time with your son is a huge plus. So you need to ask yourself. Why is so adverse to you spending more time with him.

I know I've asked this question before but I'd like you to really get inside your W's head and think abt it. Of course she misses her son but what else? Why would she get SO upset?

Is it because the house is too quiet without him? Is it because it makes her think she made the wrong decision in leaving you because she can't have her son as much? Is it because it's a power struggle between the two of you and your little son is the pawn? Just a few possibilities here, you may be able to think of some more.

Whatever the reason, it's best if you can get to the bottom of it and handle it diplomatically. It's not in Weeman's best interest for you two to be fighting over him.

You need your time with him and she needs to realize that. It's a reality of her decision to leave you. One of many consequences. Now, I know you don't want to burn bridges but many on these boards say that the moment you start standing up for yourself, you will win respect from you Spouse and some self-respect as well. You can do it in such a way that is direct but non-confrontational.

These custody issues need to get ironed out sooner or later. It's a learning curve at the moment, in the grand scheme of things, this is just the beginning. In future, you need to think about who drops him off and picks him up from school. Who goes to his music shows, his graduation, his games. Who can attend him wedding etc.

It's best to start working in such a way that is friendly because you don't want to set a bad pattern and that includes bending to her will every single time.

Hope that helps.