Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

So I'm struggling a little bit. Last night was odd, I realised he was distant and it wasnt just becuase he was cooking a roast and cant multitask, so I asked if he was ok.. he said "Ye-eaaahhh"..he clearly wasnt, so on the third time I asked, he admitted that he felt "aloof".. I panicked, I felt my stomach flip and offered to leave if he wanted to be alone.. he said no of course not! That he just felt a bit aloof but I was welcome there.. and then a look crossed his face as he said "Ohh.. its just work..." and gabbled something about rock engineering. I thought this is BS. When there is something wrong, men often just say either "I'm just tired" or, oh, its work... He said that all the time June-Sept 07, right up until the first bomb.

So this made me nervous, my previous, relaxed, being myself state went west and I felt a little afraid. Later, he did lie with his head in my lap as I stroked his hair and we watched a comedy show, but still seemed distant, something had made him be a bit withdrawn. I wonder if the reality of his choice is sinking in?

... he is still writing the report for Helens team (but says he is working on it alone). Also, his good friend C was dating his receptionist, who is 22 (!) and they just broke up, but he mentions her alot, she works at a pub in his village and they go to lunch together, with others at work. This also makes me nervous. She is very pretty and he said she was a great girl and he was a fool to break up with her.

I feel like I need help here! I'm feeling a little insecure, just as we come up to the 4 week mark. Kalni, you were right about that. So I tried to NOT worry and act as-if, but I feel I needing just a little reassurance, so far he has only once said "I love you"... when we got in from the pub and thats about it, no conversation. It was his idea to have me there for a roast and see me this often. Tonight we are supposed to be going out with friends, but I told him I am going to an extra Tang Soo Do lesson now instead and why didnt he meet G and Cher and another mate on his own if he liked. We left it that he would talk to me later.