"Every week h has a gripe about something I said or did."
This is a given. Of course he will blame you.
"Mc has asked him to communicate with me anytime he has a problem instead of holding it in until we get there & then complaining about it."
Now could the C have said the same thing to you?
Remember Communication is key.
"We chat a bit & mc asks if I said anything in the past 2 wkd that has offended him. He said no. Mc says how did that feel? H says I didn't really notice bc I've disconnected. Nothing has changed with regard to my feelings for her. Mc asked h to look me in the eye & say that. Looks at me & says my feelings just aren't there for you, sorry."
If I took a gun and held it to your head and said.. say "this". What would you do? Would you say what I wanted you to say? Imagine him in the same place.
When you find yourself at the end of your rope and ready to let go.. you will do and say anything. That is where he is.
"Mc says how do you think she feels. H says I can't tell."
A little hint.. he could not tell how you felt long before you were sitting in that room with the MC.
"H says she finally gets it - she's a strong person & no matter how things end up, we will all survive. I say survive implies just getting by. And I'm not okay with that."
This his clearly his view on things. How can you overcome that?
"We talk about other bs stuff. At the end I say I would like to ask you something. When you said you weren't feeling anything for me, do u want to? Are you trying to? H says to b honest, no. I say then why are we here? H says bc I didn't want to leave any stone unturned & I don't think I have."
I have long pondered why people do the things they do. It has shown me that people do things cause the "options" don't seem any better. What "options" do you offer?
"I feel like I've stripped all his complaints away & he's still not ready to look in the mirror & maybe he never will."
I don't know that I really like that statement. It kinda says.. I win. It makes me ponder what he really see's in you.
"He said people can't change & now there's no disputing that I am making changes. Maybe it just hasn't been long enough & he thinks it's fake?"
People can change. At the very least I am an example of that. Some time ago I would have been really hard on you.
"Now what?"
"I forgot open minded."
Sometimes.. the things we forget.. are the most important things.
They seem small and petty. But sometimes they are the key.
The people that rise above all "this" are the people that I watch.
You are almost there. But I think you need to really look at what he is saying.. and what is going on around you.
Some questions..
Why is the man that wants to leave... not gone yet?
What kind of person does he think you are?
What kind of person are you?
Do you really know how to "Love" him?
How much are you.. willing to give?
I want your thoughts on these questions. You cannot answer with what you have heard from him.
"Prince William & you?"
100 miles South.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
