Words of affirmation? My ex told me every day that I was "sexy". Considering he made me feel like a sex object that wasnt't I wanted to hear. Coach had some good ideas.
DOH! I made the same mistakes and didn't realize it until you posted about the sex object issue, particularly after what you posted was exactly what my wife said (draining her love tanks till there was nothing left).
I hadn't realized about the sex object thing as my wife would talk about things in a very non-direct (at least from a DAM point of view) manner.
It makes more sense now, particularly when I remember post bomb, we had switched marriage counselors (other one was useless) and one time she complained about how she wished I would just stop "pretending with the comments". She was talking about how she had just colored her hair and came down wearing just one of my old dress shirts and panties. I told her that I thought she looked hot, but she felt like she looked like a mess. Personally, my wife wearing just one of my shirt had always been a turn on. Apparently, she must have felt like I was thinking about her as a sex object.
Stuck - especially with your focus on this area, you may want to watch out for it as well.
Oh and by the way, my wife used a pillow between us before she moved out of our bedroom.
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
