When you were going through your sitch, did you try flirting with Mrs. Coach in subtle ways?
This is Mrs. Coach...about the flirting...Coach really didn't "flirt". Here's what he did. Whenever we had to see each other - a function for our children or an arranged dinner to 'talk' - he looked fab, smelled amazing and had a happy, open face. Not over the top in any way, but definitely troubled himself to look good. And yet, his disposition was not "See what you're missing!?!" It was "Look who I am!" He also had a sort of Teflon coating so that when we had to discuss anything - difficult or not - he had the air of self-containment and confidence. The overarching strategy seemed to be that he was in control of himself. I can count on one hand the number of times he lost his cool with me. The rest of the time, he was 'on' and 'his best' and managing himself.
He didn't send flirty text messages. He didn't flirt in email. Come to think of it, he mostly didn't communicate with TM or EM unless I sent one first. Although I do recall a few times that he sent me links to articles he'd read that were relavent to my profession ~~~ which I LOVED. He didn't call me much either. Most of our contact was face to face, and he was all about the eye contact. In our old marriage, when we would talk, he would look at his dog. No joke. Since he started busting it to heal our M, he hasn't taken his eyes off of me at all. It doesn't matter if I'm asking him to pick up TP on the way home from work, he has got his eyes glued on me. In fact, today he called me while he was driving and while we were talking, he PULLED THE CAR OVER to give me his full attention. Top 5 day for me.
I admit to not really knowing what men think 'flirting' is. Just in case you think it's winking, hey Chicky-chicky, hubba hubba...no, Coach didn't do that. What he did was to be his best self and truly notice me. I didn't stand a chance
Cheers ~
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
