Tim, Trust me, Bill and I both understand how you are feeling right now. We haven't meant to come down hard on you....but, as your friends, it makes us angry to see what your wife is putting you through.
We feel for you....we know your pain and wish we could spare you further hurt.
Please know that our words come to you from our hearts. And, are not meant to hurt you or confuse you more.
Bill, I hope that it is ok that I spoke for you....lol.