I originally picked this name because that's exactly where I was at... running out of time... divorce clock ticking...
How long were you married? Is she disabled? Alimony shouldn't be lasting 20 years... Yes, child support may be high, but most courts are much more fair these days and will expect her to go back to work pretty quickly.
Yes, you have to expect her to argue for as much as she can get, but ultimately she should be getting less (unless she has some primo lawyer...). Are you going for 50/50 custody? I forgot, how many kids is it???
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
