The first part of that post you quoted was me writing for her - what I thought was actually in her mind. Sorry for the confusion.
I know that woman you love is still in there.
I also have a pretty good idea that she is deep in the throes of the "new love" endorphin rush.
It hurts me for you that you have told her for months that you did not want a divorce, that you loved her and was not looking forward to ending your marriage; that she treated you like a husband and allowed you intimacy with her, allowed you to pick out furniture together, decorate the home together - all the while knowing that she was flirting with disaster.
Yes, you are the one who knows this woman, inside and out. And your description and passion for her has touched me to the point that I have totally embraced the quality woman that you have always described her to be.
But this stuff is not the stuff of a quality person.
Sometimes people change.
Before my ex flipped her gourd, left our home, and began bedding men the age of her oldest son, I would have told you that she was an honest woman, a good wife and an outstanding mother. I would have told you that she had never so much as told me a lie in 20+ years of marriage. And then...well, you know.
I hope this hasn't happened with your wife, but I have to tell you my friend that it doesn't look good. I am absolutely flabbergasted that she would actually tell you that she could make no promises about having sex with this man she's never met. Is sex something THAT casual for the two of you? I mean really, that comment alone just about knocked me to the floor.
I will hope alongside you that there is still reason for hope. The most important thing for you right now is that you make sure that YOU are alright inside and out. If you're giving consideration to sticking in there hoping for a change, you're going to undergo some significant stress and pain. You cannot allow YOU to be affected by HER anymore than possible.
Probably best to prepare yourself for the worst, while holding out hope for the best. Decide what you want to do if things are over, but remain open to her coming to the realization that she has made a huge mistake. You can't afford to be caught off guard like so many others have been on this site.
If she's willing to bed another, you have no idea what she is capable of doing.
To you...
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
