Know what I think? If you think he's making you do this, then you should go ahead and have him take full custody of the kids. That'll save you from having to deal with their issues.
Bullshit. Stop feeling sorry that you have the privilege of raising the kids and helping them as well as yourself through difficult times. That's not you. That's not what you meant. So stop letting those feelings get into your head.
Huh??? I was being serious. I do what I do because it is who I am and I love being a mom. I don't even know how that wasn't made clear.