I don't know...baby steps? Your last post is a GIANT step I think. You have such a sharp focus on what your W has gone through and a lot of where she is. Thinker ~ you explained it better than I could...and I LIVED it (mostly). Continue to let this amazing insight instruct your actions going forward.
Cheers ~ Nia
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