Coach knows this stuff better than I do so I'll just weigh in. I agree with what he said about D being in the bed- IMO that's not good for a marriage. Anyone's. I might get slammed for that.
Words of affirmation? My ex told me every day that I was "sexy". Considering he made me feel like a sex object that wasnt't I wanted to hear. Coach had some good ideas.
I had such a dysfunctional background that I overcame. It would have been nice if he would have noticed and commented on it. He didn't until we were separating and then he said "I have never fully given you credit on how great of a mom you are considering you didn't have a good example". Even though we're divorced, I will never forget that.
He could have said something specific he liked about me, ie, I really like it when you____________ (wear that red dress- it makes your eyes light up) etc.
Overhearing you brag on her to someone else can't hurt either.
