Hi Lost, where is you other thread? Here in newcomers?
It's not so much about what you WANT to do under the circumstances but what CAN you do? Can you force him to see you or the kids when he clearly chooses not to? And if you could, how would that be productive? Soooo, what CAN you do? I never faced such a situation myself but I have read a few stories similar to yours here. IMO, the only thing you can do is go on with your life, make it a good life for you and your family and stop worrying. I know it's hard but worrying didnt help any of us here while the opposite did, until some of the posters.
If you believe he is depressed then read about depression, it will give you some insight about timelines and yes, I agree with Jeff, it can take a looooong time.
I realise what you are going thru is VERY painful, but time is on your side, not against you. How is your D taking all this (more kids?), how are you coping finacially? I guess more info about you is on your other thread? Most of all, know that you will be fine and that everything turns out OK in the end. xxx K
