Wish I could read her mind (9) >>>>

[Bworl]

I sure am sorry to hear all of this Tim, even though it sure seemed like that was what was coming.

It's a bit more than a punch to the gut when your wife, regardless of the current condition of your marriage, tells you she is looking forward to meeting up with another man and possibly bedding him during their first meeting.

As someone else said earlier, I do believe with women there is an emotional connection first. And in many ways, that is far more difficult to overcome than a one night physical stand. Your wife has fostered this relationship for some time, no doubt entertaining the fantasy of what a relationship with this "wonderful" man would be like.

To be honest, I find it completely disgusting and an incredibly negative indication of her nature and character. I have never understood how a person can foster and begin building a relationship with another while still married to another. Is it so hard to grasp the idea of ending one relationship before starting another? I swear it seems that some of these people are still living their life in high school or college mode.

Your wife should damned well have known better.


I'm not sure how you could ever entertain the thoughts of allowing intimacy with her any more.


And yes, the trust is all but destroyed, and the felling blow would be her actually carrying out the physical meeting/intimacy with this moron.


But I see that you are still reeling, still not sure if this is a dealbreaker for you or not. Yet isn't your wife indicating to you that there is no deal to be broken?


You now have a female roommate with an internet boyfriend. That's what it sounds like to me. How do you expect to deal with the nights that she decides to go out, never knowing if it's an innocent night out with the girls or a meeting with her latest boyfriend.


I'm sorry Tim. I don't mean to incite you or pour salt on your wounds. Your wife's actions and her words from last night just totally piss me off. And the fact that she comes home from vacation and enjoys a night of passion with you as though nothing has changed fundamentally now looks like the worst kind of deception.


You've got to do what's right for you. It's time to protect yourself in every way that you might need protecting. Physically (someone mentioned protection?), legally (I know you're not going to just GIVE the house away like you first promised her!), and emotionally.


Everything for you at this point should pass through those three filters. Every decision should be weighed against what keeps you healthy in those three areas.


What in the world is your daughter going to say about what her mother is doing?


What a mess.


I hope I'm not making this harder for you. If I am, let me know and I'll cool my words and just listen for awhile. Unlike the others, I never saw this coming. Ever.


Blessings,

Bill