It's MY own fault. I look at that crap. I know she knows I can see that stuff. It was addressed to me. So, I started to wonder....the last few weeks....she has been more controlling with him, more over the top in regards to what she posts on her FB..sexual stuff, what he does for her, talking about how much he loves her blah blah blah. I know if I was happy in my relationship, I wouldn't need to shout it from the roof tops to try and convince everyone else...including myself. Any thoughts?
You are dead on. She is doing it, One: To make herself feel better about what she has done and been a part of. Two: She is terribly insecure and somewhere in her mind KNOWS if he did it with her, he wouldn't be above doing it TO her. Three: She knows or at least suspects you look and does it just to hurt you. Why? Refer to reason 1.
Deep down inside she knows this little "family" is a sham and like most of us when we started suspecting something wasn't right in our R, she is sensing things in him that make her question his loyalty to her. I'm sure it hasn't escaped her notice that he left his pregnant wife to be with her. I would bet that things aren't nearly as rosy as she would like for you to believe that they are and she is starting to live in the reality that she has created for herself. Her FB posts sound like a desperate attempt to convince herself that things are fine, when clearly they are not.
Read my recent posts and you will see some of the same stuff. My H OW actually called me on Sunday for sympathy if you can believe it.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
