I did the feeling bad, guilty thing for a long time. But I have finally (well, almost) realized what the heck do I have to feel guilty about? I didnt do anything wrong.
Yes, I know we have to take responsibility for our part in the breakdown of the marriage and I have, believe me, probably took way more blame than I should have.
But, I did not lie, cheat, ruin my h's finances, put him in emormous debt or hold a gun to his head (wait, where did that come from?). Anyway, you get my point.
So, I am with you Trapt, guilt - not so much anymore.
