Over the Shock and GALing 5

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Being happy in our R is too risky for her as it would open her up to emotional risks and pain. She can't feel happy in our R right now because she does not feel emotionally safe in it.

Explain this some more. What's happy? What risks? What pain? What's emotionally safe?

So this knowledge that "positive emotions make you vulnerable" helps me to understand. Until my W trusts that the disrespectfulness, judgmentalness, criticism, cynicism, etc are gone from my side of the R and she feels emotionally safe, she is not going to allow herself to be happy and have fun.

This understanding helps me to be patient and not get too frustrated as my attempts at fun and levity get rebuffed.

A+ for Thinker.

You have done an excellent excellent excellent job explaining how she got where she is in the R and what it may take for her to get to a new "safe" place. This is a HOMERUN, Thinker

Thank you for teaching me
Cheers ~