You know, I am sorry if I sound mean or abrasive but it gets old hearing about how somebody is struggling month after month and just now is starting to do something. And I really wonder if it wasnt for our constant prodding if anything would be done at all.
I dont want to open up this can of worms again because it really is just my opinion but I have to question somebody when they get on meds for depression/anxiety yet wait so long to find a counselor (especially when multiple resources were provided time after time in various threads) to work in conjunction with the meds.
Kev - stop being your W's whipping boy. We all see it and I wish you would to. You seem happier because she is being nicer to you and that means you are not anywhere near acceptance or detachement. Sure, its more pleasant when she is not being a raving b*itch but if I had to guess her "sweetness and light" routine does have a motive.
I dont think there is a thread on this message board where somebody isnt struggling but they dont mention it every darn day. Want to know why I am struggling today? Well, I spent 3 hours at the lab this morning for medical reasons, I still havent heard back from my new attny and my court date is less than a month away, my attny retainer is running low because of all the BS my H's attny pulled and there is no more money to replenish, my body feels like its on fire because its a bad lupus day and now I have to (want to) host a small b-day dinner party for my sister tonight. Want to know why we are having it tonight instead of her actually b-day? Because she was at a funeral on her actual b-day of a 58 year old man that dropped over dead from a massive heart attack. To top off all that I have another 1600.00 in medical bills to pay AFTER my insurance coverage paid the rest while trying to reconcile the accounts my H and I still share where he just spent 900.00 in one week on golf, gambling, shopping, dinners out and partying. So yeah, sometimes things bite the big one but we suck it up, put on our big girl panties (or big boy boxers) and move the heck on to *something* better.
And no, this is not a pity party for CityGirl - I am just saying, we all struggle daily but we dont dwell on it.
My friend always says this "if you are in hell just keep on walking and eventually you will get out of it". I always laugh when she says it but its true.
I would like to see a post from you that contains *some* substance and not just the usual "your right" or "I messed up" or "its hard" or "Im struggling". Start digging inside yourself, we cant do that for you despite our best efforts.
