Yea guys, agree completely. So H calls back and says that he doesn't want to lose me and that we talked about that he's fixing things and that he wants to be back home and if ow could find a place tomorrow he would be happy, but he told me it would take time and he's spoken to my mother and she said to take time. Bs bs bs. Oh and why spend the money for the agreement when it could be paying bills, etc. I was actually very nice. I told him that I need to protect myself legally and financially and I'm not sure where this thing is going to fall and I need to protect myself financially as well and the agreement will put all that into proper order. I told him that I didn't want to have to spend the money either but its the cheapest route to go instead of the divorce. I even mentioned that as time goes by I feel like he is losing me and that look a few months ago when people mentioned a sep agreement I didn't want to but now I am so comfortable with it and I could see myself getting comfy with the doing the divorce as well. Then I used my quote "if you starve it it will die" and that our R is starved and this is the best thing right now. And I do believe its a good move. He even talked about how in our R I never listened to him and how that made him feel and that's what I'm doing now - doing my own thing. I know he has some validity to what he says, but he's making excuses. I'm tired of his empty talks. I also told him that he could take the time to fix his stuff but I need to do this for me. I also got to tell him that H you know me and I can't sit on things too long. Some people can do this forever, but my personality is not made to sit on things too long - he knows too well that I'm a go-getter. He said yea I know you've been waiting too long.
So enough said. My money has been paid and my attorney is drafting the agreement. I gotta do this. Only god knows how long this will go on for and H is still on the fence and not putting my best interest at heart so I have to think of me. It's been 9 mths separated already.
I saw he called my phone again but I won't even bother answering, this is a done deal.
