"After a point (of no return) they are not friends by any means; you have to protect yourself as best you can. If you "love your self" you must not let the WAS hurt you and you can't do much about them hurting themselves and to a large extent hurting the kids - often if you have to "listen" to their complaints they will attempt to draw you down into the muck and you will get hurt more and more - these encounters are often to get you to take responsibility for their behavior or to get something material from you."
Be careful about chit-chatting with her. Words aren't what you want, anyway, right?
