hey cnpa just catching up, I wanted to comment on this:
Me: Wait at least 30 minutes to respond, but thank her for the FYI. If there is a specific question (i.e. what time to pick up, etc), I will respond just to the question, but just strictly business, no chit/chat.
If you make a pattern of this she will she right through it. In fact I think she knows you are doing it on purpose right now. She is taking this as more pursuing.
In my book this is game playing, I understand why you think you should do it but Its very fake .... its not you.
To make things simple just treat her like a friend. Before you react to something simply ask yourself would I react this way towards a friend.
If a friend sent you a text would you wait 30min to reply?
just reply when you want.
I know this is a small issue but its kind of an example of how you handel some things...you seem to handle things based on you wifes reaction. Forget about what she thinks and be you. Dont be who you think she would want it does not work that way.
She wants you, the guy she married, its not the guy you are now and its not the guy who neglected her.
Every time you do things out of character it confuses her.
When she text you I bet she says to herself... well he is going wait to respond about a 1/2 hour to try get a rise out of me ... thats fine, just shows he is still thinking of ways tto try and get me back, trying to play hard to get when he is not......
I had an issue come up i wanted to share with you....
I was leaving for my vacation without my wife.
When I was leaving she left at the same time, she just got into her car and left. She did not say anything; have a safe trip, bye, f@#$ you, nothing in fact she did not even look at me. I would have said something before....I would have been pissed (well I was pissed )before and called her on it.
Instead I did nothing, I left on my trip. about 2 -3 hours into my trip she sent me a text.
HER Howz things?
ME: great almost there.
HER: I know you were in a hurry but it was rude of you to leave like that.
I said a few choice words to myself like wtf....but i saw the bait and i replied:
ME: I am staying at such such hotel (wanted her to know in case of anything)
HER: oh
ME well, I am going to eat now so I will talk to you later.
