But it's increasingly clear that Herself is flailing in the darkness and needs to know there's not an empty chasm below her. But how to communicate that without rescuing, insulating her from her own Reality, or glossing over the fact that there must be consequences for decisions we make -- that's a head-scratcher.
Indeed as Puppy points out. Maybe as long as you hold the fort with the door open and the outside influence (including but not limited to an OM) is minimal there is some hope she won't stray past the point of no return - like using a bungee jumping rope. But "Herself" herself mentioned "MLC" and she's in 'thick fog' so watch out for some crazy stuff down the road that may throw your mojo and/or "love of self" off track. Your taking responsibility for the children while she finds herself is an excellent move. You are very fortunate that she's not hostile towards you; it makes your job easy. Her moving out instead of you moving out is also very interesting - I wonder how that came about exactly - most of the time its the H that ends up moving out even while "DBing". [Your writing is good despite the 'tiny']
