Man Overboard

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

D9 now has an emergency appointment with her C for tomorrow. I need to let DH know, as he has duty Thursday and was going to miss that appointment.

The C is very concerned about her not taking her meds--it is something that D9 can control while everything else is out of her control--and was hyper concerned about the boxcutter. We did the walkthrough of potential issues for suicide prevention--guns (completely out of the house), box cutters put up, kitchen knives monitored, etc. I NEVER thought I would be going through this with one of my kids and certainly not one that is only 9 years old!! C said to keep her in eyesight as much as possible until we get in there tomorrow--let her sleep with me if I have to. Asked if I felt that I could keep her monitored or did we need to consider admitting her for monitoring. I am confident in that i can keep her well-monitored. The only thing I am dreading is discussing this with DH this evening. I fear he is going to think I am overreacting, but oh well. I would rather be safe than ending up in the emergency room with a suicidal child that I dismissed warning signs on.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW

[mishka422]

Definitely let DH think whatever he wants to think. He's not there and he's not the one dealing with the situation. All that is important, obviously, is the health of your child.

I'm so sorry you are facing this huge issue SMW. I'm sure you will find a supportive yet firm way to handle her.

(((((SMW)))))

[The Wifey]

MD--
[quote=mnt_dreams]SMW, you have amazing strength and a strong faith. It must be hard to remain hopeful after so long.

I don't know where I got this quote from, but it hangs on my computer screen:
Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith. Whoever is of little faith is also little of love.

Hey sis, I gave that to you. And it hangs in my kitchen. On the fridge. In big bold letters.

[The Wifey]

When I realized my path, I removed all my family from me. I told my mother, my sister, my mom-n-law, everyone that I would not be speaking to them and that if they wanted to contact me, they could send me an email and I may respond. I knew that I needed to not be distracted from FEELINGS. feelings that my friends and family wanted to keep me from being hurt.

okay, SMW, you know that my marriage was saved by our Lord, and you know yours will be as well. The people of this world cannot have the same understanding, but they just want to help you, they do care for you, so do not feel burdened by their feelings. You know what God has in store for you and that is all you need.

This post jumped out at me. Just today I had an interesting conversation with my father. The snowbirds just came home two weeks ago and have been so happy to see me strong, confident, busy and happy. But it wasn't until today that my Dad chose to challenge me on standing for my marriage.

In his words, my H doesn't love me and although he is spending time with me it is as a brother and sister.

I calmly, and cheerfully, told my Dad that no one can know the feelings, the changes, or the relationship between two people but those people. I affirmed that I am standing for my marriage because I love him.

I told him Bill has been making an effort and that there is still nothing legal filed. I told him again I loved my husband and that I would be his wife until the day I join my Father in heaven. And I told him he can feel free to keep offering his opinions because I know he loves me and doesn't want to see me hurt.

But, that I also wanted him to respect me and my decision. After all, he had an affair when I was 16, Mom and he worked it out, and at the time I was urging her to D him and move on. They restored their M for one reason only, because they loved each other.

Regardless of how angry they are at my H for hurting me, that is something they will have to work through.

SMW, WE are standing, and when it gets too hard to stand you and I know we can always kneel in prayer.

[Silent Chrleader]

Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith. Whoever is of little faith is also little of love.

KellyJo, you have NO idea how much I needed that right now!! Thank you!!!

And, (((((SMW))))), I know the toughest job (and most rewarding!) in the world is being a Mom! I would rather be boiled in oil than see my kids hurting! But, unfortunately, we can't protect them from everything...... remember that you are teaching your kids by example when you also take care of yourself, so make sure you do that!

Hang in there, sweetie!

[The Wifey]

The little girls leave clothes all over their rooms and rather than put them up when they decide not to wear them, they end up in the wash. I am so tired of washing clean clothes!

When my s was very little I instituted a rule that any clothes in the hamper would get washed, but that I would not pick up laundry from bedroom floors. It applied equally to S and H. When either would complain they had nothing to wear I would act shocked and say, I don't know how that could be the hamper is empty and I finished all the laundry.

S had his own laundry basket and would frequently live out of the basket rather than put it away. I refused to rewash clean clothes. If a rewash was necessary, S knew where the washer was.

[The Wifey]

Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith. Whoever is of little faith is also little of love.

KellyJo, you have NO idea how much I needed that right now!! Thank you!!!

Hey SC, the fact that you needed that is again a sign of my faith. I posted on my thread and was going to go right to bed. Here I still am at after 1 in the morning. God nudged me to check on a few people. I am so glad he did. He guided me to put that on there for you just when you needed it. Isn't HE cool?!

[Silent Chrleader]

..... Isn't HE cool?!

Yes, SHE is!!!

Sorry......couldn't resist!!

((((((((hugs))))))))

[mishka422]

Yes, SHE is!!!

Hee hee! Good one SC. We were just discussing the 'being of God' in church last week. God doesn't conform to our ideals of who 'He' is so we shouldn't try to put 'Him' in a box and label Him as such. God is simply that.....God. Whatever title we choose to use for the sake of simplicity is our personal choice. I refer to God as male because I have this vision in my head of a loving Father, provider, shepherd, and soldier. To me, all those things are male hence the title of 'He'. To others, the vision of strength in their lives may have been their mother, sister, daughter, etc. and that makes it more comfortable to use the label 'She'.

Ok, enough of that.....just so happy to see that God is putting out the nudges to my friends here to support each other in times of need and struggle!

SMW - How is your D9 today? I know you said you have a counseling appointment for her today, right? What time? I want to lift her up in prayer at that time.

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

Hey ladies! Thanks for your support. D9 and D17 ended up staying home from school today. We are all feeling cruddy. I was up coughing most of the night.

D9's appointment is at 3:15, Mish. Please do lift her up, as we are having more Daddy issues addressed today, too. D9 told D17's best friend that its not really like their Dad is a dad anymore--all he does is visit, play with them, and buy them things. WTG Disney Dad.

I need to get ready to go and pick up my kitchen before I go. Think good thoughts and many prayers for us this afternoon.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW