When exactly are you going to make the decision to STOP STRUGGLING? Every time a post is made where somebody is kind and generous enough to point out your outlandish behavior you simply respond with "its hard" or "still struggling".
NEWSFLASH - we are all struggling for one reason or another.
Personally I think you are out of your mind to go away with your W and kids for a weekend. I wouldnt go to the seafood boil either. Again, your W makes plans and decides to include you when it suits her. She is manipulative and one day you will see that.
I guess I just dont understand why you want all this attention and praise for doing things you should have been doing months ago. Poker, meeting friends for lunch/dinner and things of that nature are find for socializing but they arent doing much to rebuild Kevin as a man. And yes, we all need outside socialization but that is just one element of the rebuilding.
Do you understand goals and action plans? It might look something like this:
Todays Goals and the action plan to execute them: 1. I will not mention my W or think about her and if I do start to think, chatter or obsess about her I will practice emotional thought stopping.
2. I will not obsess or chatter or even THINK about how much I am struggling and if I do, I will practice emotional thought stopping.
3. I will make an outline of all areas in which I want to work on in counseling and this outline will be complete by (insert day here).
4. If my W contacts me I will wait 48 hours to respond IF her communication warrants a response at all.
5. I will NOT call the courthouse for 7 business days to obsess over the D and its status.
See, those are goals and action plans with deadlines in which they must be executed by.
