You started this thread asking "where do we start?" on this attempted road to reconciliation. I gave you my opinion, based on my knowledge and experience: that it has to start with full transparency. Has it ever occurred to you that "what's concerning you right now" has LED to your marital problems? and that you might need to do something DIFFERENTLY?
You're welcome to take my advice or leave it, as always, but you don't need to shout at me when I was merely responding to your request for help.
