- I don't know why you think can't clean a few dishes yourself - Why are you so selfish - Why is everything about you- Why is everything so tit for tat. - Why are you keeping tabs of how many chores you do and counting it against what I do. - Can't you see how much I do all day while you just sit in your office. - You just think you are so selfless, but... - Why can't you take care of the kids - you think that just because you do few chores and loads of laundry...
Notice a trend? Your W is "mind reading" telling you what you think and feel. I just realised that for me I think that happened is because I didn't let my W know what I was thinking so she had to fill in the blanks. Why wouldn't I fill her in, IDK probably the snake that made me afraid of letting her know what I think, feel, or want - Mr Nice Guy complex. It's not healthy so fix it. So listen for these words: "you think....," "you feel....." , "you are so...", Then let her know what you really think and feel. Very calmly and in control state your thoughts and feelings. This changes the communication dialouge instantly and is what she has been wanting from you (intimacy - knowing your true thoughts and feelings.) Let her know about your day, what you have done, learned, who you helped, what made you laugh, think, cry, and what you are thinking. You might get a little push back but staying lovingly detached helps you deal with the spew. This is a opportunity to lead. You can handle it. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
