Yesterday evening I caught W with D1 at OM's house (she didn't bring her car, figured she was being sneaky). I text messaged her:

ME: Forget your car somewhere?
W: I know where it is. Are you trying to scare me. You are the coward.
ME: Okay. Do you mind bringing me my daughter?

She never responded. Ended up leaving about 30 minutes later. My attorney told me I already have more than enough and to stop antagonizing her.

So I sent the following:
ME: Good mothers do not bring their children around their affair partners. Show some self respect until the divorce is final and stop putting you before D1.
ME: There is no marriage for you to come back to. I deserve better. The kids deserve better. You are selfish and hurtful for no reason. You are not who I married.


So... I got that off my chest. We are 32 days out from trial. I spoke to my attorney, he gave 3 possible dates next week for deposition and the following monday to her attorney. She still hasn't picked one. Neither has she picked which psychologist to do the evaluation despite having the 3 resumes for 25+ days at this point.

I asked him what would happen if W (as I suspect) just doesn't show up for any of this including the trial. He said: "She's f***ed."

He said if she continues refusing to do the psychological evaluation the Judge will put her in jail.

So yeah... if she wasn't BPD I imagine she'd have done it by now.

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Today: D1 was doing well this morning. She saw me and came running towards me. I got on the ground and played peek a boo with this little crawl tunnel thing they have for the kids. One of the daycare workers clapped her hands and called out to her. She walked almost to the worker, spun around and came running back to me.

She did a little "woe is me" pose and whimpered with her arm held over her forehead until I picked her up. When I went to leave she whined which is the worst part of leaving.

I think I'm settled at this point. I'm done. The ongoing selfishness and attitude displayed by W has done its damage and I cannot honestly say I have any feelings for her right now. I've hardened my heart and a lot of people I've talked to anticipate her trying to make a return to the M once reality does set in.

My attorney is Mr. Understatement of the Year. Adultery video evidence + self-mutilation and suicidal thoughts may be enough to overcome her 10 point advantage as a mother in this state...

Everyone I've talked to says "Slam Dunk."

Maybe somewhere in between?

"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."