Yes you did mention you were getting a D, but I appreciate a woman's POV in all things that deal with "attraction".
I did try to do the same things I had before, but they had no effect. Right now she's not ready to accept anything like that, so I give her space, show her compassion when it's called for and try to go on about my own business. She seems miserable, but that's her choice. I'm trying not to make it mine.
She's always been attractive to me which makes our lack of sex all the more frustrating to me at times. Plus there are the periods that I get insecure and imagine other men hitting on her. That heaped with the comment she made a couple of weeks ago about her not wearing her ring because she doesn't consider us married, really hits below the belt sometimes.
Yes, I was divorced- that marriage lasted 13 years. I've been married for almost four years to my second husband. Things are good.
To me, and this is just me- the not wearing of the wedding ring is symbolic to her- take it off- see I'm not married. I keep coming back to the fact that she's in withdrawal from seeing OM everyday. Is there any way for her to leave that job??
I have daddy issues myself- which I never realized until probably two years ago. My dad lived in another state- my mom had full custody. I saw him rarely- don't get me wrong he didn't forget my birthdays and things like that but it was more of a friend relationship than anything. I think all my life I've been struggling with wanting that "Daddy's girl" relationship. I wanted to be doted on and adored- which I never received from him.
So, I kinda get where she's at. I'm not really attracted to older men like she is though so I don't get that. What I'm attracted to is feeling like daddy's princess. I think my entire life I've strived for this- because words of affirmation are so important to me.
Have you asked her what you could do to make her happier?
