Yes, it is moi! Talked to P yesterday after several months. She is also doing fabulous! I am glad to have the "right" to be back here. Silly person who thought otherwise. No rights after 7 years is ridiculous for the sake of an email address. You know what I'm talking about. I just want to be able to say hi and answer when I can help.
SunFunOne, Thanks for your post! Glad things are going well for you!
I agree with the things that you wrote. Bill and I have both said that one thing we learned from the ending of our first marriages was not to depend on someone else to make us happy. However, I will add that I am thrilled to have Bill in my life! But, I did learn that I do not NEED a man to be happy. Bill and I are together because we WANT to be, not because we HAVE to be. (I hope that didn't come across as sounding harsh, not at all intended that way.)
People tell me all the time that they do not know how Bill and I can stand being so far apart and not seeing each other on a daily basis. I explain to them that "this" is all we have ever known, so for now, it works for us. That is not to say that we are not looking forward to the day when we can actually live together, just that for now, this is the way things are.
I am glad that you are able to see your "someone special" on a regular basis. Again, it sounds like you are doing well.
Yes, you hit the nail on the head. You are in a new M by your own choice and because it felt right. It takes a long time to get to the point that you don't "Need" someone but "Want" to be with them. That is key. I felt desperate and unloved when my M disolved but took the time to heal and made no serious decisions until my head had cleared and the pain was not as intense.
Something I learned from it all is that there is no best way to move on. Some people choose to date earlier than others, some don't want to ever go there again. Some find true love sooner than others and some play the field. I just don't feel people should judge one another for their decisions. When the marriage is over, kaput, final - you are free to move on to something new and that is that.
Isn't it wonderful when we can put the hurt and anger behind us and move forward with our lives?!!? I look back on my life the way it was a few years ago and wonder what all the fuss was about. I, too, felt desperate and unloved. I honestly didn't think anyone would ever love me again. I have been truly blessed!
