another newcomer - thread #2

[JKL2009]

Got from from work yesterday, and when WAW got home with S found out he had behaved pretty bad at daycare. WAW and I talked about it, probably the best conversation as parents we have ever had. After he went to bed, we talked more about it and our day. It was a great conversation.

Went to sleep, and in the middle of the night I was sort of restless, and interestingly she was too... turning over and whatnot. I finally rolled over and put my arm around her. She settled into a nice sleep. That was the first time that happened in 2 months.

Later in the morning, a little before we get usually get up, we were again lying next to each other and my arm was around her. She rolled away from me and moved my arm away. When she got up, I said sorry if that bothered her, just sort of happened. She said that it made her angry a bit because of all the times in the past few years when I didn't show her any affection or attention, so why now.

Not exactly detaching and not pressuring, but a think a little bit here and there in an organic way is not a terrible thing. But I know I have to be cautious on showing affection like this.