Who is the most important person in this situation?
Your wife! Your kids!
NOPE.
You.
You have no control over your wife's condition. She's the one who has to get out of her head, seek help. What happened is incredibly traumatic, with each pregnancy the level of postpartum depression increases. A severe emotional trauma opens the door for every trauma experienced. Someone can get stuck treading water in a cesspool of self pity without realizing it.
It's always easier trying to 'fix' the other person than to focus on yourself.
Take care of you. Go to counseling, learn how to set boundaries, and actionable steps for you to get healthier.
Get healthy in mind, body and spirit. The rest will follow.
