Divorce looming #14

[MrBond]

okay, i have to say something.

jaguilar is right. Not just SOME people have dropped off, ALOT of people have dropped off. I was one of the ones who stayed with you since the beginning.

And what happened? Day after day, the same stuff. You could take your recent post and paste it 3 months ago. It's the same.

And now you say you FINALLY set up a C appointment and you EXPECT the rest of us to pat you on the head and say "good job"? Not only do you EXPECT it, but you actually have some attitude behind it.

How many of us have stayed with you through the worst times when you didn't have your kids? When I read that you were flirting with someone, I almost threw up in my mouth. Are you kidding? Do you really want another woman to hate you as much as your W does now? You hadn't done anything for your own personal GROWTH and HEALING except for things that are the easy way out.

So you went out to play poker. Big deal. What happened to the "i'm going to go out and get fit...work on my self-esteem...etc." that you said before you first moved out of state?

Right now you've managed to score pills without treatment, have your kids (but are judgemental towards them when they don't see things your way), hanging on to your W since she's thrown you a couple of bones, played poker (which doesn't require that much self-esteem building), and just now have a C scheduled (let's see how many times you go).

Not to be pessimistic, kevin, but you've burned everyone. You could take all of 25mlc's posts and have a book written by them.

I really think you posting here is a way to stroke your low self-esteem. you've played the victim card for so long that many are just so tired of it. And you still hang on to your W's every word. Forget about 100 days without mentioning your W, I doubt you could last 100 minutes without thinking about her.

I'm not going to apologize for what I wrote above as others have, because quite frankly I think people have done quite enough for you and their apologies actually feed your need to be pitied.

You want to show everyone a baby step? Go to C and write down what was discussed, then tell us when the next appointment is, and the next, and the next. Let's see how "real" your changes are this time. It's your chance to prove to us that we didn't make a mistake in supporting you for so long.

There's your 2x4