Let me "welcome" you to the club that nobody VOLUNTEERED to sign up for but its a great place to be at this time. You will find a lot of helpful people here.
I am still new to DB so my advice may be limited but others will jump in soon. I just wanted to reach out because I know how anxious you feel right now.
Is your wife on medication? Have you spoken to a doctor about whether any of these changes may be for medical reasons? Do you suspect that she is involved with someone else?
It must be a very hard time for you and the kids. It sounds like you have been very supportive throughout the years.
The experienced DBusters will give you some good advice but for starters here are two simple suggestions:
- I would suggest that you continue to meet your kids needs but begin to FOCUS on you and nurture yourself. What can you do that makes you happy and will not take you away from your parenting duties? Take care of yourself by exercising etc as this will put you in a more positive frame of mind. Keep praying. The caregiver needs care as well.
- If you pursue her (see DB books) you should probably stop. No R talk etc.
What steps have you taken over the past year to address the issues on your M? Let us know as that will help with responses.
