I think it's great that you are fighting for your due. You have every right to make that list of your terms, do not let him guilt you on that. He's just trying to get you to give him what he wants, same old story.
I agree with brokenhearted, let the lawyers handle it. Now is not the time for communication with him. Start looking for a new place - it's so much fun planning a bright new future!
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
