When I realized my path, I removed all my family from me. I told my mother, my sister, my mom-n-law, everyone that I would not be speaking to them and that if they wanted to contact me, they could send me an email and I may respond. I knew that I needed to not be distracted from FEELINGS. feelings that my friends and family wanted to keep me from being hurt.
okay, SMW, you know that my marriage was saved by our Lord, and you know yours will be as well. The people of this world cannot have the same understanding, but they just want to help you, they do care for you, so do not feel burdened by their feelings. You know what God has in store for you and that is all you need.
This post jumped out at me. Just today I had an interesting conversation with my father. The snowbirds just came home two weeks ago and have been so happy to see me strong, confident, busy and happy. But it wasn't until today that my Dad chose to challenge me on standing for my marriage.
In his words, my H doesn't love me and although he is spending time with me it is as a brother and sister.
I calmly, and cheerfully, told my Dad that no one can know the feelings, the changes, or the relationship between two people but those people. I affirmed that I am standing for my marriage because I love him.
I told him Bill has been making an effort and that there is still nothing legal filed. I told him again I loved my husband and that I would be his wife until the day I join my Father in heaven. And I told him he can feel free to keep offering his opinions because I know he loves me and doesn't want to see me hurt.
But, that I also wanted him to respect me and my decision. After all, he had an affair when I was 16, Mom and he worked it out, and at the time I was urging her to D him and move on. They restored their M for one reason only, because they loved each other.
Regardless of how angry they are at my H for hurting me, that is something they will have to work through.
SMW, WE are standing, and when it gets too hard to stand you and I know we can always kneel in prayer.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
