When she yells or throws out an arguement have you ever just agreed with her? I used to do that with my husband. Even when he was completely wrong. I would agree, say "I hear you" and just try to be calm and NEVER react to his anger. Quite honestly, I feel like I really learned a lot from this experience. How to just let a crazy person go off and not let it affect me. It was kind of empowering.... try this. It may help defuse some anger. Maybe not...
All you can do is your best. I'm sorry there's still such anger and momentum. It's too bad everything can't be slowed down. Sometimes distance and time is the only answer.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
