Hi Andy! My dad is good--back from the hospital, tired, healing, and good.
I have big events to tell you all, but not the energy to post all the details. Here's the nutshell: H showed up on Thursday and said he wants a D. No warning, no nothing. As far as he's concerned, it's the only answer. He handed me papers that he had signed and notarized. I told him that I would not sign right now and that I need time and space to process this. He doesn't want to involve lawyers and thinks that I'll just go along with him on this.
I was beside myself on Friday and convinced that this was it. I've spoken to Virago, my tarot reader and former couples counselor, and Chuck, my DB coach. Both agree that he seems to panicking--maybe coming out of his stupor and realizing that he is responsible for the unhappiness that he feels. They advise to keep the course and see what happens.
H has also been here and acted like nothing happened, but tonight he told me I don't need to fill out the finanacial declaration pages because when the parties agree on the details of the paperwork, it just doesn't need to be filled out. I don't think he regrets giving me this paperwork and in fact believes that we can go on as always but that he'll get his divorce.
I'm trying to figure out what I need to do legally here. Does anyone know if Roller Coaster Rider is still around? I can't find her. She lives in WA and knows about the laws.
I'm calmer than I was and feel like I have a gameplan thanks to Chuck and Virago, but I'm also scared. I'm afraid that if I don't respond correctly to these papers that the D will be granted automatically.
Can anyone steer me in the right direction re. legalities?
